Saturday, September 19, 2009

10/10

.merisik october 10th.

can't wait! me and Mr. X setuju to talk to masing2 punye mother bout 'the day'... we skip the adat. Mr. X will be giving me 3 dulang and so do i... :)

looking back those days at the adat u see if langkah bendul hav to bagi cincin to all the kakak, parents perempuan boleh masam muka if parents laki mintak kurang duit hantaran, barang kemas seolah-olah diharapkan.... mmg menguntungkan pihak perempuan but skrg ni i believe gonna be bride lebih considerate. let pihak lelaki faham sendiri, ikhlas. tak payah mintak2.

adat is our MALAY culture and we do not hav to ikut if we don't want too. melampau jugak org dulu2 ni (hehehe) sampai peribahasa pun "biar mati anak, jgn mati adat!" heck the one who came out with that peribahasa mesti takde otak (no offense tapi saye mmg tak setuju) bukan manusia kalau kau biar anak kau mati dek kerana adat. (eh emo pulak. but true!)

modern brides skrg lebih berdikari, we hav enough education, good career, own salary etc....tak hadap mana duit laki pun... kan?;) we help each other la kan...nak jadi suami isteri tu yang dituntut islam...

*** selitan sedikit luahan perasaan***
i need support. my beloved friends, yg tahu who i am behind this blog and read this, please don't ask me "eh kenapa beli barang mahal2?"" tunang bukan byk kan manisan je la!", "kalau tunang kenapa nak ada pelamin macam kahwin? bukan tunggu dlm bilik je ke?"
kenapa this, kenapa that.... hurmmm pelamin ke, singgahsana ke, buat dalam bilik ke, toilet ke, coach ke, gucci ke apa ke for tunang, please do not question. will only upset me and make you look bad in return (mcm org jealous yg cari my planning weaknesses and cerita2 during catchup with the girlfriends when i'm not around)

again,back to preference & affordability... i need TOTAL support. i love you sbb u r one of my bestfriends, but please... i welcome thousands of nasihat but jgn tanya all those soalan adat yg kecikkan hati saya dan saya rasa sgt annoyed.

(if u're reading this, u know who u r. i'm sorry can't tell you straight up sbb i was so upset and i don't want u sentap dgn i either; u talked too much, question this and that... while others were congratulating me, ur busy bragging around that yours later will be yada yada... this is my moment, you will hav yours too one fine day. i want u to gembira for me. u're one of my flower babes, dear... i hope it never jadi again)

+++blogger gonna be brides or dah jadi bride, if you have/had about the same experience with your bestfriends/bridemaids do share it with me... maybe ada cara how to overcome the problem. ya la, she's a kawan baik tapi dia tak sedar dia sakitkan hati kita. and kita pun don't dare to 'sound' sbb dia kawan baik, taknak dia kecik hati. kinda bothering me. help.


love,
Miss X

4 comments:

  1. bertunang pun kena grand and the hantaran is a must to have branded stuff.i believed in that!good luck to u.let ppl questioned u but u are the person who will make the day become the most wonderful once in a life time.

    I suggest you to go for gucci for the engagement and LV for the wedding.after all its worth of ur living!LV never sale and the rest will be on sale during boxing day!

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  2. haha akma sayang.... thanks for the love. but i need you to shop kot?! please get ur cuti ok??? i don't care. u promised me since june kot! hihihih ;)

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  3. hey dear, found ur blog while i was googling 'carcosa seri negara'.too bad its closed huh for renovation?

    ive had the same experience as u, people asking that and this. I had my engagement on 24.9.2009. 5th raya. adhoc sangat. and tak ramai nak watkan mini pelamin on that day. so bila dapat je, i rembat and terpaksala bayar mahal sikit.

    ada jugak orang yang kata '"berapa harga pelamin". one of my close friends. i said "900" and she said "FOR THATTT". sakit hati sebab i dah penat mencarik, and its my engagement so so what kan?

    be strong k?sumtimes theyre just jealous, i always tell em that. HA HA HA.

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  4. nahwal: good to hear from you. ya, same thing same... i was so dissapointed somemore when those unwanted phrases came out from a close friend. kan? nevermind, any of our majlis actually akan tunjuk who's our true friend. true friend is one who actually comfort us and cheer us up tho during our bad hours... tapi time majlis2 penting ni la kalau kawan tu rase jealous ke, busuk hati ke atau the fact that takde orang nak kat dia lagi macam2 dia akan cakap. kita hanya bersabar and insyaallah akan dilindungi Allah swt.... anyway congratz on ur engagement dear!

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